By Ryan Velez
Actor and comedian Mo’Nique has not been shy about the open relationship she has with husband Sidney Hicks. In fact, she has even created a podcast on the subject, the Mo’Nique and Sidney’s Open Relationship Podcast. The Grio reports that in a recent episode of the podcast, Mo’Nique provided some insight into why most people find it difficult to understand why she could be okay with allowing her husband to have s*x with other women.
“If my husband should sleep with another woman, is that the end of our marriage? No. If I should sleep with another man, or have s*x — if we gon’ do the do is that the end? No. But we’re open and honest with one another to have the conversation,” she explained.
“So when people say cheat, how do you cheat? When you say here are the answers and what that does is, what it did for me, it made me really appreciate what I had.” Having recently celebrated their 10 year anniversary, Mo’nique and Hicks have been friends since high school, and have 10-year old twin sons, Jonathan and David. They have been on several shows in the past to discuss the nature of their marriage, as well as the surprise many have had after hearing about it.
“When we first came out with it, everybody said, ‘Oh my God, how could Mo’Nique let that man do that to her?'” Mo’Nique recalled on an episode of The Preachers earlier this year. “[But] it was my idea.”
“[Sidney] is my best friend ever. What I did not want to do is be dishonest with my best friend [because] there may be times I want to be with other men,” she explained. “I wanted to be open and honest with the person I was going to spend the rest of my life with.”
Both Mo’Nique and Sidney explained that while their relationship is indeed open from a s*xual standpoint, this open status to them is about more than that. Along with the s*xual freedom comes an open dialogue between spouses, as well as an open understanding of the needs that they have both as a couple, and as an individual man and woman. Mo’Nique was previously married once before, to Mark Jackson from 1997 to 2001.