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Charles Blow on Black Masculinity & Sεxuality: “There’s Room Enough for Everyone”

New York Times writer Charles Blow has a memoir coming out soon and one of the surprises Charles Blowtherein was an admission that Blow is bisεxual. In an interview with Mother Jones, Blow discusses his own thoughts on black masculinity and overcoming the pressure to fit in.

“I’m trying to illuminate how perilously narrow we draw the concepts of masculinity and sεxuality in our male culture—particularly in black male culture—and to help people to see that there’s room enough for everyone. Part of the book is to highlight all of these very tricky social settings that young men navigate, including that hazing session, which is about brυtality but also about bending yourself until you break in order to fit in—blending instead of standing up and standing out. I guess what I’m trying to do is say, “I know that life, I’ve done all those things, and I can still tell you that just being you is perfectly fine.”‘

In Blow’s memoir, Fire Shut Up in My Bones: A Memoir, he says coming to terms with his sεxuality almost cost him his future.

“In addition to being attracted to women, I could also be attracted to men. There it was, all of it. That possibility of male attraction was such a simple little harmless idea, the fight against which I had allowed to consume and almost ruin my life. The attraction and my futile attempts to ‘fix it’ had cost me my dreams. The anguish, combined with a lifetime of watching hotheads brandishing cold steel, had put me within minutes of kιlling a man. . . .”

He continues: “To me it seemed too narrowly drawn in the collective consciousness, suggesting an identity fixed precisely in the middle between straight and gay, giving equal weight to each, bearing no resemblance to what I felt.”

 

 

 

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10 Comment

  1. While attending college, my sociology professor said it best, “there’s no such thing as bisexuality, because one satisfies “you” more than the other”…….Therefore it’s up to “you” to decide which one that is. 😉

  2. Debo unfortunately, for you, you got duped by your sociology professor who told you that lie. I would go to your school and ask for your money back, that sounds like personal opinion. Not to mention that comment creates and spreads the disease of the mind.

    People are in fact what they ARE. No one has the right to decide for them. It’s all of these so called rules and restrictions that have created these inner monsters for people who can’t seem to feel “natural” or free to be who they are while they hurt none.

    Seriously, go get your money back.

  3. I like Charles Blow and his sexuality is irrelevant.

  4. I agree there is no such thing as being bisexual. If you r truly honest with your feeling, you will know which one you r attracted to. I support gay marriage etc., because I do believe that homosexuality is innate, however that doesn’t mean I believe that it is the natural expression given the design of our bodies. They are designed for sex between male & female. To deny that is to deny common sense. Lots of things get crossed in utero that result in our bodies & minds performing in ways they were not intended to perform. That doesn’t mean people should ne demeaned or mistreated. Neither does it mean that there wasn’t a deviation in the design.

  5. The gentleman is Gay and should just accept that.

  6. He likes having sex with women AND men. What's unusual about that nowadays? There are no limits…do whatever you want. Right?

  7. He likes having sex with women AND men. What’s unusual about that nowadays? Do whatever makes you feel good. Right?

  8. Charles Blow seems a committed writer more than anyone else-I enjoyed reading his commentaries in the NYTimes-for a brother who has reigned victorious over his own demons…I look forward to more insightful articles in the 'Times' from him.

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