Ask Black America: What Are The Challenges of Co-parenting and How Can They Be Overcome?
It seems that when couples have children together and then the relationships don’t work out, they then spend many years struggling to overcome the many challenges of co-parenting. A common complaint that many mothers have is that the fathers of their their children do not spend enough time with their children or they do not do enough to contribute financially.
Another common complaint is that sometimes mothers talk negatively about the fathers of their children and the children end up not respecting their fathers.
It’s very sad when the grown-ups are not able to put aside their differences so that they can think about the best interests of their children. Many children, unfortunately, are exposed to nasty fights that go on in front of them because their parents have not been able to resolve their conflicts in a mature way.
We asked the question, “When parents live apart, what are the challenges of co-parenting and how can they be overcome?” on our Facebook page and the responses are as follows: ( Feel free to respond to the question yourself.)
“I would assume communication…thats the key to alot of stuff!”
“It doesn’t have to be difficult if the parents keep the well being of the child in mind instead of their own.”
“It’s a tough one for sure. Distance can be an issue, and transporting the child back and forth between states or even countries. Also arranging for reasonable visitation times that don’t disrupt the child’s routine. Both parents need to handle this in a mature and reasonable manner.”
“The best thing the parents can do is act like adults.. put the children first and foremost above bitter lingering feelings for one another.. if both parents can work together and take personal feelings out of the situation, it could work very well.. no bad mouthing the other parent.. EVER!!!”