The (Ree)lationship Guide: Is Trash the New Class?

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VIBE Magazine's Cover - June/July 2012 Issue

by Ree, “The (Ree)lationship Guide”

I was a bit baffled by Vibe Magazine’s choice in placing reality “stars” on the front of its June/July cover and referring to them as “role models”. There is a trend in hip-hop in which women who were once looked upon as a disgrace to society are now exulted and sought after by some of the most powerful men in entertainment. Most of these women lack any real substance beyond their $2,000 Christian Louboutin shoes. I’ve often wondered why they are able to attract men in the spotlight while college-educated, independent-thinking women are often ignored by mainstream media. In a way, I suppose that’s a “good” thing- considering most of the men in mainstream media don’t have any skills aside from the one skill that has acquired them fame; however, I still believe women of class are often not appreciated anymore because of mainstream media’s constant “praise” of women who were former strippers, groupies, and/or media whores.

My question to the men is: Is trashy the new classy? If so, why? Kanye West was once engaged to a Master’s Degree holding woman but after their relationship ended, he dated a former exotic dancer/lesbian. No offense to women who have worked in exotic industries, but generally speaking, the depth of conversation from a person with a college degree vs. a former exotic dancer is much more superior. Then again, I guess it depends on what you’re talking about.

To my ladies of class and distinction, continue to strive towards excellence. Your eloquence and grace are sure to reward you in spirit. I hope a man who is worthy of your love finds you in due time. Mainstream media shuns you, but I admire and adore you. I’m putting my foot down and joining forces with others to end the misogynist culture that is hip-hop. Sign the petition here.




Ree “The (REE)lationship Guide” is a graduate of Clark Atlanta University. She is a contributing writer for YourBlackWorld.net and BlackLikeMoi.com. Follow her on Twitter: @iDateDaily


The (Ree)lationship Guide

Ree "The (REE)lationship Guide" is a graduate of Clark Atlanta University. She is a contributing writer for YourBlackWorld.net and BlackLikeMoi.com.

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  1. Ree, please understand that hip hop didn’t start that way. Not at all. anyone who remembers The original hip hop, the music of which is rap, started off as braggadocious. The rappers bragged about themselves. These young men & women were creating their own sub-culture, which is now the dominant culture today.

    Now, back in the late 80s and the early 90s, hip hop was very nation-conscious. It sought to entertain yet also educate. Boogie Down Productions had an album called Edutainment.

    Public Enemy, Poor Righteous Teachers, X-Clan, Queen Latifah and a bunch of other nation-conscious rappers dominated the airwaves. Rap and hip hop weren’t considered a problem-by us, that is. However, the FBI attacked and even arrested some rappers for explicit lyrics, such as Luke from 2 Live Crew (now, he was nasty, but he would be considered tame today).

    You’re fighting the wrong battle if you want to rid the world of hip hop. Guide the young men rather than destroy what t them is their primary form of cultural expression. Teach respect of women, racial pride and community unity.

    This was the aim back then, now it’s just about bling. That was by design. Hip hop was our last attempt at autonomy, and some wicked force took control and made it nasty…

  2. Mainstream media ignores Black men of substance, too, and props up one-dimensional characters. Mainstream media dictates the parameters of Black man- and womanhood. That’s a problem.

  3. To Vibe….
    Trash is Trash, and Trash equals nothing but TRASH… Like Snoop Dog said: You can’t turn a “HOE” into a housewife, and that goes for TRASH too… But many macho conscious men do love to walk around town flaunting and dangling TRASH from their arms for every body to see which pussy their gettin busy with. Humm just another notch on their belt and something to bragg about to the fellas… Educationed classy blackwomen / women of color don’t get-down like that…

  4. I don’t believe that ANYONE actually believes that these women are ‘classy’ or even desirable. What’s really happening is Vibe is trying to stoke the fire on these issues by asking the question…in short it is an effort to sell more mags by buying into the controversy. It’ll probably work too even with the backlash.

    As far as these reality show women their time in the spotlight looks to be waning. The outcries about the BBW and just reality show buffoonery in general seem to be reaching a point of diminishing returns. Hopefully then we can get back to common sense.

  5. This is where parents, especially fathers, have to step up and distinguish the difference between “trash” and “class.” Parents have to be the parent and supervise all activities from the way their daughter dress to who she’s hanging out with (i.e. calling friends). Sidebar: I’m surprised that Khandi was included in the article with Evelyn, based on what’s portrayed, they seem to be polar opposites.

    • I can’t believe Khandi is on that portrait either, because she doesn’t even fit the status quo, it just doesn’t make any damn sense at all. Tamar doesn’t either… All of this mess is just plain ole BS from the head to the flo. I guess producers, especially our people think we’re all stupid, clueless and dumb, will watch anything on TV… Punks, all of them are fake-ass punks, money hungry punks, sale their damn souls to the devil every waking moment of the day…

  6. That is on the MEN! You want to go for quick, beauty and boobs then that’s exactly WHAT YOU GET!!! BBW is a prime example of such! A man should be just as selective when finding a mate/wife etc as a woman should. When the silly ones wake up, they will be broke, can’t play no more and that’s when they will look for a REAL WOMAN . SADLY it will be too LATE!!

    • Sounds like someone is a bit partisan towards their own sex, no? hahaha

      ‘A man should be just as selective when finding a mate/wife etc as a woman should.’
      You’re absolutely right with this comment. For years women (especially the young) have swooned over the ‘thug’ type or the daredevil kind of guys who have been known to have multiple options in women. These men are often considered ‘Bad Boys’ and often act as male versions of these reality show women. Sadly, as you put it with the men, when these misdirected women finally realize what real strength within a man is it is often too late.
      Both sexes need to clean up a lot of things IMO.

  7. Totally agree with Vandellish. Women and men have to make better choices when searching for a mate. Too often, thugs and hoochies get more attention than classier men and women. The sin in us is attracted to this type of person, and they are not good mate material.

  8. Let’s make this point very clear…
    I don’t know how this is supposed to reflect the choice of men as the predominant supporters of this show are women, from young to the old.

    Moving on though, there are a lot of issues that need to be tackled in regards to relationships in the Black community, one main one illustrated by Dee’s commentary, such as broad generalizations. While, the ones’ who are often highlighted in media from the Black community are of the “trashy” criteria lately, it fails to cast light on the men and women of substance.

    Personally, I feel the outrage that it is exhibited by both male and females over this show should be put to good use and hopefully get this show removed from television.

  9. I was joking to a friend the other day that maybe if we were strippers or video models, we would be married by now. but to each his own but if these ladies on the cover are considered the new role models for young girls and women then we are in big trouble.

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