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The (Ree)lationship Guide: 4 Reasons NOT to Have Sex on the First Date

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1. “The End.”

Have you ever watched the ending of your favorite show before the beginning? If you ever do, you’ll notice you’re not anxious and/or excited to keep watching. Sex is the suspenseful ending of the show that has you on the edge of your seat. If you give away the ending before the beginning, what’s left to see?

 

2. Awkwardness.

Oftentimes there’s a disconnect between men and women when emotions are intermixed with sex. Generally speaking, after a woman has sex she becomes emotionally attached to her sex partner.  Sooner or later she will feel compelled to ask the infamous question: “So what are we?” Men are oftentimes confused as to the nature of the question because, generally speaking, they’re able to separate emotion and logic better than women. Why do you think companies oftentimes target the female consumers vs. the males? Women are more likely to spend money based off of their emotions, while men tend to spend money when it makes sense to spend it.

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3. It’s Irresponsible.

What if a child is conceived on this first date? What if you catch an STD? Having sex is risky business whether or not you’re in a relationship; however, the turmoil of dealing with a permanent dilemma alongside a person you don’t know creates unnecessary hardships.

 

4. Sex is Devalued.

As mentioned in the first point, sex is the ultimate “climax” of a relationship. If you make it a habit to have sex on the first date, sex may lose its value to you. It’s not uncommon to lose interest in things you can attain without effort and frequently. Don’t ruin a great sex life with your future spouse because of poor decision making in your past.

 

 

Ree “The (REE)lationship Guide” is a graduate of Clark Atlanta University. She is a contributing writer for YourBlackWorld.net and BlackLikeMoi.com. Follow her on Twitter: @iDateDaily

The (Ree)lationship Guide

Ree "The (REE)lationship Guide" is a graduate of Clark Atlanta University. She is a contributing writer for YourBlackWorld.net and BlackLikeMoi.com.