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by Ree, “The (Ree)lationship Guide”
Although 80% of Americans believe cheating is wrong, the percentage of adults admitting to cheating on their significant other is increasing. Unfortunately, there isn’t a “quick fix” for this behavior, as some cheaters claim it’s an addiction (not according to research) . Below are the top 3 ways to kill the cheater within you.
1. Identify Your Weakness(es).
Identifying a weakness empowers you to control yourself. I have a weakness for chocolate. Because I have identified it as a weakness, I do not visit the candy aisle in the grocery store. Why? Because it is guaranteed that I will buy several bags of chocolate candy. You can acquire the same weakness that I have for candy with people. If you’re attracted to a certain physique, you should minimize or avoid the amount of time you spend with that person, especially alone.
Wall Your Street.
Motivational speaker Jeff Johnson told attendees of the 2010 Essence Music Festival’s relationship panel discussion that cheating had become counter-productive to his initiatives. He’d found himself spending too much time trying to figure out how to cheat as opposed to spending time being productive. I’ve oftentimes informed my cheating clients that their behavior was counter-productive to their agenda as well. Volunteering at hospitals, nursing homes, homeless shelters, etc. are useful ways to keep your schedule busy and stay focused on meaningful and productive initiatives.
3. Disconnect Bad Influences.
A lot of people believe birds of a feather flock together. I don’t 100% agree with that saying, but I do encourage cheaters to surround themselves with people who are mentally where they’d like to be. There are instances when friends are considerate enough to respect your point of view and not bring malicious activity in your presence; however, I still encourage clients to minimize time spent with “considerate” friends because you may mistakenly be placed in an uncomfortable situation solely due to your association with them.
Ree “The (REE)lationship Guide” is a graduate of Clark Atlanta University. She is a contributing writer for YourBlackWorld.net and BlackLikeMoi.com. Follow her on Twitter: @iDateDaily