I frequently hear complaints about chivalry from my clients. The biggest complaint from the ladies? Chivalry is diminishing. The biggest complaint from the males? Chivalry isn’t appreciated. Below is a list of the top 3 reasons why chivalry is dying at our own account.
1. Lack of Self-Respect
People can “sniff” low self-esteem in another person like a German Shepherd “sniffs” fear in a child. Why are you attempting to date or acquire a relationship when you haven’t dated and/or acquired a relationship with yourself? You can’t find love in yourself through someone else. Work on being the best you that you can be. Self-respect is so vivid that it is communicated (non-verbally) to those who are in the presence of someone with it.
2. Promotion of the “Playa”
How many of you have looked at a handsome little boy and said “He’s going to be a playa’ when he grows up” ? Although the statement is casual, it is still instilling a promiscuous lifestyle in our community. Little boys shouldn’t be encouraged to deceive women. They should be taught to love and respect women as they’d want a man to love and respect the women in their family.
3. The Rude Girl Syndrome
Contrary to popular belief, men do have feelings. When a man opens a door for you, give him a simple gesture (e.g. a smile, a nod, a “thank you”) to recognize him for his deed. The less appreciation women show for chivalry, the less men will feel inclined to be chivalrous.
Ree “The REE-lationship Guide” is a graduate of Clark Atlanta University. She is a contributing writer for YourBlackWorld.net and BlackLikeMoi.com. Follow her on Twitter: @iDateDaily