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Throughout my journey of consulting with people about their dating and relationship woes, I’ve heard some disrespectful and outright ignorant statements from men and women about the opposite sex.
Below are a few statements from each gender that literally make my teeth cringe. Let’s work together to rid ourselves of such narrow-minded thinking!
3 Common Statements Made by Men
1. “Women are crazy.”
This statement shows a level of insensitivity and ignorance to the chemical build of a woman. Different actions trigger different reactions in men and women. Understand your woman’s “breaking points” and avoid taunting her.
2. “Black women are gold-diggers.”
I have yet to understand the origin of this statement. Some clients have referenced the divorce settlements for Juanita Jordan (Michael Jordan’s ex-wife) and Sheila Johnson (Robert Johnson’s ex-wife) as an example of black women digging in their man’s pockets. For every one black woman who has “cashed out” on a divorce settlement, I can name at least three women of other ethnic groups who have also.
3. “Black women have bad attitudes.”
Again, I oftentimes challenge the origin of this statement. From my observation, black women communicate things with a lot of conviction, or passion. A person who is passionate about something may exude anger or frustration with someone who does not see their point of view, but this is generally the case across the board for all ethnic groups and both genders.
3 Common Statements Made by Women
1. “All men cheat.”
Despite the extensive research indicating that all men do not cheat, there are some women who refuse to believe otherwise. The bottom line is this: Both genders are prone to cheating. Develop open communication with your partner about infidelity and be proactive in avoiding it at your own account.
2. “I’ll just marry a white man.”
In a sense of desperation formed from consecutive failed relationships, some black women have stated they will just marry someone of a different race. To just marry someone of a different race implies that you’re just settling. Interracial dating is beautiful when it is formed upon genuine interests in a person’s character as opposed to the person’s ethnicity.
3. “Black men are lazy.”
This is another statement that has no firm origin. My clients have often referenced the lack of father figures in the household and the high rate of unemployment amongst black men as examples of their “laziness”. While I can’t attribute laziness to being the reason for the absence of a father figure in the black home, I can say societal factors play a substantial role in the unemployment rate amongst black men. Although each man’s situation is unique, I believe it’s time to have open dialogue about the daily forms of discrimination that black men endure to acquire a better understanding of their plights. The black man’s plight is undoubtedly more challenging than the black woman’s plight.
Ree “The (REE)lationship Guide” is a graduate of Clark Atlanta University. She is a contributing writer for YourBlackWorld.net and BlackLikeMoi.com. Follow her on Twitter: @iDateDaily