Over the years, I have encountered several women who say they desire to go natural but they list reasons why they can’t. They say going natural is not possible for them because they believe their hair is way too nappy. The first time someone told me this, I was a bit confused since I believe going natural is all about embracing and accepting your hair for what it is, nappy or fine. I do realize some women go natural because to them, it’s a fad and they simply like the way natural hair looks but my hope is that all transitioners fall in love and embrace their natural hair by the end of the process.
When someone transitions from relaxed to natural hair, they are often nervous about how their hair will look once they are completely natural. Will they have an abundance of curls, kinks, naps or coils? Most women have been getting relaxers for so long that they can’t remember how their hair looked before they started getting the chemical treatments. Some women hope that their hair will be a fine texture. I have had women tell me that they wanted their hair to look like Alicia Keys, a biracial R&B singer who’s 3b type hair is a reflection of her mixed race. Many of these women will be disappointed when their hair doesn’t come out as fine, curly ringlets like the sultry singer, so I encourage these women to love their hair for what it is. When I decided to go natural I prayed for God to help me to accept my hair for what it was no matter how kinky or curly or nappy it was going to be. I wanted to love my own hair and not desire to have hair like anyone else. When I was transitioning from relaxed to natural hair, I would often look at pictures of natural women for inspiration but I had to be careful to not allow myself to “wish” my natural hair would come out looking like there’s.
An African American woman’s natural hair texture can come out in so many different ways considering our genetic pool is mixed with a variety of races. I believe all natural hair is beautiful whether it is super fine and silky curls or nappy kinky coils. I encourage any woman who is going natural to transform her mind as well during the process. Pray that you accept what God has given you naturally. Going natural has given me an “its mine so I love it” kind of attitude. No ones hair is too nappy to go natural. Go natural and embrace your naps or coils or kinks. Decide that you are going to love YOU no matter what.